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Apr 24, 2014

8 1/2 Tips No One Told Me Before Buying a Home

8 1/2 Tips No One Told Me Before Buying a Home

About 4 years ago, my husband and I bought our first home. Prior to that, I knew very little about the home buying process, mortgage loans, homeowner’s insurance, etc. I had worked briefly for a bank and used some professional knowledge to navigate the process, but I ended up doing a ton of research anyway.

Because I know a bit about the customer service side of banking, friends and family…

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Apr 23, 2014 / 10 notes
Apr 22, 2014

Surviving Marriage, Laryngitis, and Whiny Sick People

My throat feels like it’s been set afire by the ever-$@%!-lasting Olympic flame. I probably have acute laryngitis, judging by the angry red splotches in the back of my mouth. (I’ve been self-diagnosing on WebMD all day, can’t you tell?) At any rate, between the stuffy nose, the fatigue, and the inability to swallow without wanting to cry, I don’t have my usual blog post in me today.

I did want to…

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Apr 17, 2014

Cabin Filters, Feminism, and Clearing Out the Filth

Cabin Filters, Feminism, and Clearing Out the Filth

The unopened box containing my car’s new cabin filter hid under the passenger seat where I couldn’t see it. That was the excuse I’d been using, that out of sight is out of mind and out of the realm of my responsibility. But I was unable to forget, and a curious mix of emotions washed over me when I attempted to.

Every oil change, the technician shoves my dirty air filter towards my face, knocking…

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Apr 15, 2014

5 Truths at the Heart of “20 Feet from Stardom”

5 Truths at the Heart of “20 Feet from Stardom” | Black music lives on #20FeetFromStardom

Sometimes the people working in the background of our lives have the most beautiful stories to tell. Perhaps we miss them, struck as we are by the brilliance of a star we deem brighter, more electric. Perhaps we have forgotten that they, too, have voices imbued with the power to move us. This is why I wanted to watch the documentary 20 Feet from Stardom, because sometimes the people under the…

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pretty-period:

Very sad to hear of the passing of Karyn Washington, founder of For Brown Girls (forbrowngirls.com). She was a 22-year old student at Morgan State University.
Her work with FBG was phenomenal…IS phenomenal. And I salute her in light with love. #PrettyPeriod
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Apr 10, 2014 / 143 notes

pretty-period:

Very sad to hear of the passing of Karyn Washington, founder of For Brown Girls (forbrowngirls.com). She was a 22-year old student at Morgan State University.

Her work with FBG was phenomenal…IS phenomenal. And I salute her in light with love. #PrettyPeriod

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Apr 10, 2014 / 1 note

The Curious Case of the Mysterious Shrinking Boobs

The Curious Case of the Mysterious Shrinking Boobs | A mother struggles to make peace with her new breast size

Everybody has that one body part they really like. In my glory days, people called me the “little girl with the big boobs.” Puberty was kind to me, giving me a decent pair of boobs that sat prominently on my 4’10″ frame. I had a body the size of 4th grade boy; my boobs were saving grace, buoys of femininity in the land of donks. I didn’t want to be known just for my breasts but I wasn’t ashamed…

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Apr 8, 2014 / 1 note

For the Fellas: What Do Men Really Notice on Women?

For the Fellas: What Do Men Notice on Women? | Should I expect #husbae to notice my nails?

Last week, I joined the trolletariat for a “worthy” cause that had me writing umpteen comments on Facebook about natural hair. I won’t rehash the argument–I’m all kinked out. Suffice it to say that wifey changed her hair and boy, did her husband notice, which somewhat surprised me.

I often hear that women should be more “natural” in their beauty choices, and that men can’t be expected to notice…

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Apr 6, 2014 / 1 note

good love

good love leaves you feeling thoroughly debauched. 

tingly. 

warm. 

succulent.

delicious.

Apr 6, 2014 / 3 notes