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Aug 29, 2014 / 1 note

Married Sex: What it IS and what it ISN’T

Today is my 5th wedding anniversary. Yaay! I figured today I might be grown enough to talk about sex. (Hi Mom!)  I wanted to share what my short time being married has taught me about sex after the ring slips on. I’ve been thinking about this post for a long time because most unmarried people have plenty of ideas about sex after marriage, but so many married people are mum on the topic.

For good…

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Aug 25, 2014 / 2 notes

What Separation from My Husband Taught Me about Marriage, Motherhood, and Myself

On August 29, I will celebrate my 5th wedding anniversary. This week, I’m writing slices of life being young, Black and married in a time when no one believes Black marriages even happen. 

To be perfectly honest, I didn’t want him to go. When my husband said that he’d gotten the 11-week out-of-state internship he applied for, a bittersweet feeling washed over me. Elation, because it was a great…

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My little family! #blacklove #family
Aug 25, 2014 / 1 note

My little family! #blacklove #family

Redddddddish #naturalhair
Aug 22, 2014 / 7 notes

Redddddddish #naturalhair

Aug 21, 2014 / 2 notes

I was tagged by valunplugged to play the Music Challenge. Rules: 10 songs from the player of your choice, on shuffle—no skips.

Here are the 10 songs that came up on my music player while on shuffle;
01. Jazz (We’ve Got) by A Tribe Called Quest
02. The Hardest Part by Coldplay
03. Cherish the Day by Sade
04. Hang on to Your Love by Sade
05. Summertime by Mos Def
06. Joy and Pain by Frankie Beverly & Maze
07. The Storm is Over Now by R. Kelly
08. @15 by The Roots
09. Classical (Intro) by Gucci Mane
10. Fugee La by The Fugees
I challenge caramelblackness.

Aug 21, 2014 / 3 notes

Why #HandsUp #DontShoot is the Battle Cry of a Movement

Each time an unarmed Black man dies, Black America chooses a memento to mark his humanity before the jackals maul it. For Trayvon Martin we donned hoodies, brandished Skittles and iced tea. I will never hear the words “I can’t breathe” again without thinking of Eric Garner’s last gasp for life. Over the past nearly two weeks since Michael Brown’s death, thousands across the country have lifted…

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Aug 20, 2014 / 277,855 notes

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Aug 19, 2014

On Writing and Self-Care: “I’ll Sleep When I’m Dead” Will Kill You

On Writing and Self-Care: “I’ll Sleep When I’m Dead” Will Kill You | #selfcare #health #amwriting

It’s been a long time…I shouldnt’a left you…without a dope blog to get to…

I’ve been quiet over this past tragedy-filled week. Strangely, it’s been one of the most restful weeks I’ve had all summer. I haven’t been writing because I’ve been sleeping. Apparently I am not one of those writers who has mastered the cosmic balance between sleeping and productive writing. I don’t suffer from insomnia…

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Aug 17, 2014

Brunch Loves: leafy green + sun dried tomato + potato frittata

NEW POST — Brunch Loves: leafy green + sun dried tomato + potato frittata

I love to cook when I feel like inspired by great ingredients. So I finally decided to start posting the recipes to my mad scientist kitchen adventures! This meal got a lot of requests on my Facebook page, so I figured I’d share it with y’all.

The Bok Story

I was a little lazy about dinner on Thursday night. I worked 9.5 hours and then crawled downstairs to cook. Except, I had forgotten to set…

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